I can empathize, mama! The early days of new parenthood are very difficult, period. My husband and I had many moments where emotions ran high and each of us felt inadequate and defensive. I agree with Tulika Saha that counseling is a great resource! It can be challenging to adjust to all of the responsibilites but leaving everything to you, the mother is potentially going to create even more resentment between you two. Whether as a couple or on his own, seeking a professional may help your husband through this time. (*If the first person isn't a fit, keep looking. I met 3 therapists before finding my person.)